How Do You Address Your Husband?

#NabloPoMo Day-9.

This is an open-ended post because I am sure it has interesting perspectives that I must have missed, so please feel free to pitch in.

Recently, while having a casual conversation with my sister, an interesting perspective came to the fore. Apparently,in the traditional families across India, a woman does not address her husband by his name. Now, this is not very uncommon given the Indian traditional scenario. Different parts of the country have different ways for a woman to address the husband. But here, I am quickly going to talk about the one that I found to be the most interesting.

After digging a bit deeper on the topic, I understood that a good part of Rajasthan, Haryana, Uttar Pradesh, Chhattisgarh and Madhya Pradesh (the traditional families, withΒ semi-urban/rural set-up), instead of addressing the husband by his name, address him by their son’s name. And no, not like “Pappu ke Papa“, but Pappu itself!

No, please don’t ask me:
a) How does the right “Pappu” make out which one is being talked to
b) What if the couple has no son/kids.
Educate me if you have the answers to these please. πŸ™‚

While I have known many women to address their husbands by various other names instead of their real name (‘Ae jee’/ Suniye take the cake), this one factor across India has huge variety. I am told that languages, cultures and family-systems play an important role in something that earlier seemed like a no-brainer to me. A lot of people argue that it stems from the Islamic culture, but I doubt that a culture that has roots in Islam alone, would so deeply and organically be embedded in the Hindu society. With this, I would like to take your leave. Over to you.

1) How do the women in your family address their hubby?

2) Any interesting tradition on this topic that you know of ? πŸ˜€


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